In our every prayer, we wish success and happiness for our children. We all want to raise happy children and work hard throughout our lives to achieve that target. But in that process, all of us make some parenting mistakes unknowingly that affect the mental and emotional well-being of our children. Raising a child doesn’t require rocket science to be successful. By following some simple steps consistently, we can raise happy, confident, and successful human beings. There are certain things parents need to understand if they want to make their children happy.
BE HAPPY YOURSELF:
Happy parents can raise a happy child. It is necessary for parents to be happy as their happiness reflects in their behaviors towards the children as well as others. If a mom remains depressed all the time, her children may develop behavioral problems. Discover the ways that make you a happy mom and indulge yourself in those activities. Getting surrounded by positive people, we can keep our minds free from the entanglements of the petty affairs of daily life. At the same time, hanging out and having fun with friends and family members help to lighten the mood. Laughter is contagious. If you get any little chance, laugh with your children, enjoy the moment. To be happy, we don’t need great reasons always. Some insignificant little things can spark a moment of joy. Sometimes, just being together and enjoying each other’s company can create happiness also. So, to raise a happy child, parents have to make themselves happy at first.
CONNECT WITH YOUR CHILDREN:
A strong parent-children bonding is the most important thing to raise healthy, happy, and confident children. We have to connect with our children by spending enough time with them. By paying attention to their every need and analyzing everything from their point of view, we can strengthen the relationship with our children. Discipline and punishment become unnecessary in this kind of relation. A child, who is closely connected with her parents, feels safe and secure all the time. She follows the rules and instructions of her parents without any question. Eventually, she becomes a happy child with a positive attitude towards life. We have to stay away from gadgets or any other distractions while spending time with our children. A child gets happy when she gets undivided attention from her parents. It doesn’t need precious gifts or a lavish lifestyle to raise a child happy and confident. Our unconditional love, support, and understanding are all to make our children happy.
LET THEM DISCOVER THEMSELVES:
It is extremely important to ensure an environment where a child can grow by leaps and bounds, physically, mentally, and socially. All her potential and strength can flourish to the fullest by our nurturance and care. It is only possible when we give up our overprotective nature and follow the authoritative parenting style. We should allow our children to explore her surroundings with her own term. More playtime, both indoor and outdoor, contribute to raising joyful and happy children. Playing with others will teach them to share, negotiate, work in a group, and problem- solving ability. Children who play regularly with others can resolve conflicts easily.
At the same time, parents have to encourage their children to discover their hobbies. Anyone can find immense happiness if he can follow his passion. Our hobbies help us to create our own world of happiness.
Teaching gratefulness is the easiest way to raise a happy child. We have to encourage our children to be thankful to the almighty for all the privileges they are enjoying. Many children around the world don’t get the proper meal, primary education, and other facilities. So, whatever we have in life, we should give them value and consider ourselves fortunate. It is a good habit to maintain a journal of gratitude and inspire our children to do it. Gratitude helps us to feel better and accept the things that come our way with a positive attitude. Developing an attitude of gratitude would help them to appreciate the contribution of other people in their life. They will learn to be compassionate to others and give respect to others. This way, they will be able to fight the negativity around and gradually would be grown as optimistic, positive, and happy human beings.
AVOID COMMON PARENTING MISTAKES:
Parents have to understand the things that upset the children and stop practicing them. Every child is unique and needs different treatment. Sometimes, we hurt their feelings with our actions and words unwillingly. We have to be their role models. If we fail to relate to them positively, their confidence and happiness would be in jeopardy. Yelling unnecessarily, punishing, imposing rules without reasons can make a child unhappy. At the same time, parents need to quit some bad habits that can cause frustration in children. We have to provide only love and warmth to them so that they become well-equipped with the inner strength of courage, confidence, and happiness to face the challenges of life.
GET INVOLVED IN THE ACT OF KINDNESS:
Studies have found that if we become kind to others or help someone in distress, it makes us happy. So, we should involve our children in any act of kindness. If we inspire our children to save money and donate that to needy people, it would make him happy as well as kind in the long run. Parents, who take part in some volunteer work along with their children, successfully instill many positive qualities in young minds.
Happy children are most likely to be successful in life. But that doesn’t mean we try to make them happy always by any means. It is okay if they feel low sometimes. Negative emotions like anger, fear, disappointment, all are important. A child who confronts all types of emotions in life learns to regulate them automatically.
In addition to this, parents should not allow overindulgence. Material things can make a child happy. But it is not advisable to surrender to her demands all the time. A child learns to appreciate a thing when it is hard-earned. If we hand over costly items to make our children happy, it would cause a feeling of discontent in the long run. So we have to give them the opportunity to earn the things they want. It will teach them the value of everything. We have to provide them love, care, support, and guidance to fulfill their dreams, and this achievement would be the best reason for their happiness.