Lily is very much upset with her daughter as she has started behaving strangely with Lily especially, in front of others. It just broke her heart when she talked to Lily rudely in the presence of some special guests. Feeling disconnected from her child, she has confided the matter to us. Anita, our friend, is the mother of a teenager and shares a special bond with her son. Her opinion and advice in this matter have shaken me a lot. Is it possible that children get embarrassed by our behavior? After all, we do everything for their well-being. How can we be so careful with our every action or words? Why should we restrict ourselves in showing our emotions to our children? But I could not ignore Anita’s advice either. Parent-child relationship problems is an important issue that we can’t avoid at any cost.
According to Anita, we have to behave in a controlled manner with our children, especially teenagers. Our activities can cause a lot of uneasiness in our children. They feel embarrassed for the parents when they don’t become “sensible” enough in front of others. Honestly, I can’t remember if I had ever felt in such a way for my parents. But now the situation is different. Children also need some “space” where parents are not at all welcome.
DO WE REALLY KNOW OUR CHILDREN?
The importance of parent-child bonding does not mean the valuable family time spent together only. But mutual respect and understanding of each other have a crucial role also in solving all types of parent-child relationship problems. It is wise to behave with our children in an age-appropriate manner always. We always love them unconditionally and hold closest to our heart. But we also have the responsibility to recognize the different facets of a growing individual. If they deserve privacy, parents should allow it without any fuss. Anita has warned us about some factors that most of the parents fail to address at the right time. These factors not only embarrass the children but also make them emotionally disturbed.
HOW TO STOP EMBARRASSING YOUR CHILDREN & AVOID PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS:
1. DON’T SHOW AFFECTION IN FRONT OF OTHERS:
Sometimes, parents can’t stop themselves from showing love for their children publicly. This behavior causes embarrassment and uneasiness for the children especially, the teenagers. At the same time, some parents forget that their little ones are grown up now and can take some responsibilities. Most importantly, children want to explore the world on their own terms. So they get upset when parents become overprotective and treat them as little babies in front of friends or others.
They get irritated when parents continuously dictate to them what to do. In the case of teens, their newly found individualism gets hurt tremendously, and they stop communicating with parents. Some start behaving rudely and make parents feeling disconnected. So, we must avoid the things that upset our children.
2. DON’T TRY TO BE SMART:
In an attempt to prove themselves cool and smart, some parents cross the limit. They forget their age and dress or talk in a manner they are not supposed to. Besides, they interfere in everything when children are with their friends. Serious parent child relationship problems can arise from such kinds of behaviors. We have to leave them alone so that they can enjoy themselves. Asking too many questions or giving unwanted suggestions to other friends make our children embarrassed a lot.
3. DON’T CRITICIZE IN FRONT OF OTHERS:
Criticizing children in front of others is a common parenting mistake that creates parent child relationship problems. Children get embarrassed when parents discuss or criticize their mistakes or wrongdoings in front of others. Even comparing with other children also hurts a child’s self-esteem immensely. It causes a lot of embarrassment in him when done in front of others. Failures are inevitable, and our unconditional love can help our children overcome the situation.
On the other hand, if we make fun of or criticize their effort, it demotivates them. We become responsible for killing their self-confidence and the spirit to try something new. It affects the bonding with your child, and you may start feeling disconnected from him.
4. DON’T SHOW YOUR EMOTION PUBLICLY:
Parents have to control their emotions in public places. It is a matter of utter disgust and embarrassment for a child if his parents fight in public. At the same time, showing love to your spouse publicly can cause uneasiness in your teenager.
As can be seen, we can avoid battles with our kids if we become a little sensible and thoughtful. We have to be careful about the freedom and privacy of our children as well as their likes and dislikes. We have to quit our bad habits for proper child development. I have listed some common mistakes that cause parent child relationship problems most of the time. If you have discovered anything else by which you cause embarrassment to your children, please share it with us. After all, we all want our little ones to be raised as the healthiest and happiest in life.