As an overprotective mother, I can’t control myself to intervene when I see my child in any difficulties. I extended my support in no time when he couldn’t figure out something. But sometimes, I thought it hampered the development of his self-confidence. At the same time, to teach him important life lessons, I felt the importance of assigning him more responsibilities around the house. Now I have started realizing that after giving him some age-appropriate chores, he has become more independent and confident. The opportunity to work together has strengthened our relationship also. So, I want to tell the moms like me, that don’t hesitate to teach a child responsibility from an early age. It would help him to develop independence, self-confidence, and a feeling of self-worth.
WHY SHOULD WE TEACH A CHILD RESPONSIBILITY?
In many families, parents or other family members don’t take the initiative to teach a child responsibility. It is considered that at home, moms are responsible for keeping everything in place. They have to take care of everything so that it looks perfect all the time. It creates unnecessary burdens on moms as they perform so many household and outdoor activities throughout the day.
So, we should distribute simple household chores and activities to our children from an early age. It would reduce our burdens by teaching them a sense of responsibility at the same time. The children who take responsibilities from an early age grow up as independent and responsible human beings.
Generally, at the age of 4 or 5, children become more enthusiastic in helping mom with small chores. If we assign them some easy tasks regularly, it becomes their habit. Our children learn various life lessons by planning and organizing tasks and completing them within a time limit. At the same time, they learn to value labor and acknowledge the small efforts to do something successfully. As a result, they never take mom for granted and always remain around to give her a hand. So, moms get appreciation as well as help by teaching responsibility to the children.
STRATEGIES TO TEACH A CHILD RESPONSIBILITY :
ASSIGN SOME HOUSEHOLD CHORES
We must give some age-appropriate household activities to our kids. Be careful that it becomes no burden for them. Break a big task into smaller parts and assign your kid with the easiest part. To motivate him, do it together while chatting or sharing some sweet memories related to it. Moreover, make the moment enjoyable for your kid. Regular practice will help a child to understand that it is his responsibility to complete a particular job. In this way, he won’t feel burdened and would learn to work as a team. He would feel happy to take part in a weekly cleaning program or make the table for family dinner.
ENCOURAGE TO CLEAR HIS OWN MESS
From an early age, teach your child to keep his toys back at the right places after playing. Parents should encourage a child to tidy up his own study table, arranging the books, notebooks, pencils, crayons in their proper places. Taking care of one’s own belongings makes him responsible. A child keeps his room neat and clean if guided to do so from an early age. Some easy tasks like putting the dirty clothes in the laundry bag, used utensils into the basin, teach kids to take responsibility at home.
Parents should let the children take responsibility for their actions by setting examples of their own. Instead of blaming others, we should take responsibility for our misdeeds or failures. By accepting our own mistakes, we can teach our kids to take responsibility for their actions. If we help our children to rectify their mistakes instead of scolding or giving punishment, they won’t be afraid to accept the mistakes. Failures are inevitable to get success in something, and we should teach it to our children. When a child learns how to handle failure, he does not get afraid to take responsibility.
TEACH FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY
By giving freedom to manage their own budget, we can teach responsibility to teenagers. We can allow them to plan their expenses and savings from the pocket money. If we inculcate the habit of contributing a part of their savings to any charitable organization, it would motivate them to spend money wisely. They would grow as happy and financially responsible human beings. We should not act impulsively while shopping in front of our children. At the same time, we should share our financial mistakes with them so that they can understand the value of money.
INVOLVE IN EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES
Teachers can contribute to teaching responsibility to students by engaging them in sports and after school clubs. Kids have to follow the schedule and organize the necessary things to attend the activities. Besides, clubs and sports help children to learn how to work as a team. They learn to be responsible for their actions because any mistake can put the whole team in a problem.
ENCOURAGE TO HELP OTHERS
To teach a child responsibility, parents should involve them in some volunteering activities from a young age. Taking care of old people, helping neighbors, donating generously to the needy people, assisting someone in trouble, teach our children their responsibility towards society as well as the world. Serving others selflessly helps them to be grown as happy, compassionate, and independent adults.
Finally, if parents develop routines of daily expectations from the kids, they become more organized and disciplined. They start following the rules and become able to understand the importance of effective time-management. Eventually, they grow confident and responsible. Most importantly, we should start teaching responsibility to our children from an early age. In fact, no age is “too early” to teach a kid responsibility. We have to be consistent with our instructions only.